I am committed to fostering healthy relationships; therefore, I speak my thoughts kindly. I value my own thoughts and let go of the idea that anyone else's thoughts are more valid than my own.
I abandon the childish notion that people should be able to read my mind and instead use effective words to communicate with others. I am willing to take the first step toward communication and resolution.
I also let go of the idea that I have to be sure I am right about an issue before speaking up about it. It is enough for me to tell someone I have a conflict with how their words or actions make me feel.
My goal is to open doors of communication, not to prove myself right. I listen to others because I desire mutual understanding and the long-term health and strength of my relationships.
I set aside the desire to retaliate when I am hurt, knowing that nothing good can come of this and any feelings of vindication are short-lived.
Instead, I keep the big picture in mind and speak kindly, aiming only for clear communication and deeper, stronger relationships.
1. Do I value my own thoughts as highly as those of others?
2. Do my words reflect my desire for communication and greater understanding?
3. When I am in conflict with someone, do I strive to be patient?